Escort Etiquette – I: Are Escorts Racist Against Black Men?


Over the years – and before I starting banging escorts – I have observed that many of the most elegant escorts, regardless of ethnicity, are not black male friendly. I have seen many ads which state “No black men”, “No black men under 30”, “No black men under 40”, “No thugs”, “Upscale gentlemen only”… You get the point. I have had several 5-star ladies this past summer and it turned out to be one of my best summers. Because I am highly discriminative myself, especially seeing how ugly-to-mediocre women get so much undeserved attention, in addition to witnessing women playing ugly games with men in the dating scene (especially on social networks), I can relate.

Granted, a percentage beautiful escorts actually lust black men while others don’t care about the guys’ ethnicity. As in this arena, it’s not about racism, but green-ism. I wouldn’t go as far as calling it ‘racism’, but essentially having standards. And I can understand, because for me, it takes a lot for me to like a black woman. Most black females are fucked up and I’m sure many will agree. Why are some of these women not too excited about black men? Well, the reasons vary. In many cases, brothers bring it on themselves.

The most commonplace excuses for black-male rejection is that many black guys are, by their own admission, ghetto. This includes acting extremely childish and immature and those who happen to be well-known braggarts (playing the numbers game), thieves, thugs, drug-addled, hygienically unconscious, not being groomed and are cheap, thus wanting too much for too little. Understandable, many people witness young black men doing stupid shit and it doesn’t stop there. Negative attention is also drawn due to simple over-exuberant acts, such as guys going to nightclubs throwing money in the air (an act called ‘making it rain’). I admit that, unfortunately – and not to stereotype – there are handfuls of black males who do fall in these categories, particularly if they reside in a major city. And it’s always one idiot or group of idiots who fuck it up for everyone else. Not to say that it is fair, but in life, what is? For this, there are even very few black escorts who will refuse to service black men.

Peculiarly, some of the women have boyfriends who are afraid they may lose their girlfriend to another man who is sexually superior to him. Speaking of which, I met a pretty Middle Eastern girl at an airport coming from a trip to Florida in the Summer, 2012. Turns out, she was an escort. “I don’t like niggas as my customers”, she stated. I ask why, as I found it rather odd since the love of her life is a black guy, who is currently in prison for murder. “They want too much for too little, they are too needy, they try to cheat you and they end up falling in love with you and I’m not looking for that.” Later, she admitted that most of the guys who frequent her are – as she put it – disgusting – and let’s face it, most female sex workers do feel that more than half of the men who frequent them are humans in their lowest form, though they have high-end professions. They are, without reasoning, labeled as “fat, hairy, ugly, stinking motherfuckers” while others sneak contraceptives off and hell-bent on taking pictures, making the ladies’ work stressful. She mentioned, “If I got with a black guy, it would be for the orgasm, because the other guys can never give me that. So, I just focus on taking their money.”

Another common excuse relies heavily on the stereotype of black men having large penises. A white escort may say “He’ll stretch me out and make me sore and I’ll have to take a week off. Black men are so rough and they’ll cause me to lose money.” After my session with an escort (a black girl who resembles Beyonce) one morning, her and I spoke about this. She rolled her eyes and said “Mr. O., bitches are stupid. You know that, right?” After nodding my head in agreement, she continues to say “Anytime you hear a girl say that, she’s not taking care of herself.” She implied that most young girls are clueless on how to keep themselves tight with kegel exercises. In addition to that, she explained that the myth of the big black penis is a myth, which is largely true, to an extent; however, black men are not the only ones with big penises. She explained that she met a white guy with a big penis and she fearlessly took him.

Be that all as it may, some of the ladies are, indeed, fickle. Interracial porn-king Lexington Steele said via an interview in Scott Poulson-Bryant’s book, Hung, that some of the women in the porn industry are equally bad, though it does not imply the women are racist. Lexington Steele also states how some females claim they do not fuck black guys, but will give up the pussy to an athlete or a musician in a heartbeat.

Even for the women who do prefer black men (whether they are sex workers or average females in the dating scene), they despise ghetto black men and as a result, have no problem turning one down or throwing him under the bus to her ‘sisters’ or other men who they happen to find more desirable. Are escorts racist towards black men? Does it even qualify ‘racism’? Yes and no. Just like the employer in corporate America who will make some people work harder for their trust. I am not excusing this in its entirety, though I am the same way when it comes to my being discriminative of black women and, hell, some American white girls alike. It’s not our fault some people have a damaged reputation to the point to where they may eventually make it hard for the next person who looks like them.

Thank God for the undesirables, as it makes the competition pool so much smaller and easier for the world’s greatest!

(Black men need to take themselves more seriously.)



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  1. Damn a couple people end up ruining everything it’s dumb I’m not a “BROTHA” I’m a African American and I don’t see why so many stereotypes exist sometimes it’s just tiring I have a bachelor’s degree and I find myself feeling shunned because there are dumb people in the world that just happen to be my skin color. I don’t know what to think anymore

    1. In America, only black people are held responsible daily for the actions of other people, who happen to be of the same race.

      1. “only black people”
        Not true at all. What a weak little victim mentality that is.

      2. I’ve recently came across this issue. I personally asked a gorgeous black escort who thankfully is intelligent, open minded, and more importantly we vibe well together, not just physically I might add. Why so many “no black men” posts. Her first response was generally speaking black man are bigger and fuck with lots of energy. All blackmen? Of course not, however as human beings we all tend to generalize. Her second response was based on younger guys who act immature. Not all but enough. She also mentioned whitemen can be into some really weird/dangerous stuff even by escort standards. However you will never see a post saying “no whitemen/guys”! There are enough overly weird and dangerous whitemen out there, however they are not lumped into the same group. Sounds like complete bias. I fully agree with you, unfortunately we live in a country full of double standards. Just means we have to “search” a little more and sometimes that works out better anyway.

  2. You mad, bruh.
    You wrote the piece cause a white working girl expose African american men in negative light. She closed the comment section. You blame your women to hide your broken ego and low self esteem.

    Don’t ASS-UME! I mentioned her blog topic as a related article. In addition, certain black women also say “no black men”. Some bros bring negative attention to themselves, without generalizing. I wrote the article before reading Maggie McNeill’s topic. Also, I don’t care for typical American white girls. They are mundane and bland. Sorry!

  3. Escorts are allowed to decide whom they get naked with, whether it’s age, race, cash spent, or they don’t like his attitude. It’s similar to dating, it’s not “racist” to have preferences about who you want to see. If anything, you’re the sexist pig who apparently imagines escorts aren’t human beings with personal standards like everyone else. Not every sex worker is a desperate crack ho. If there’s any discrimination it’s mostly against young men, for obvious reasons like lack of maturity, lack of money, disrespect, sense of entitlement, etc.

  4. Wait a minute if black guys make it rain in the trip club then doesn’t that mean they have the finances to pay for an escort??? so how are they cheap and broke??

  5. A whore is entitled to his or her own customer preferences. Just move on to one that fucks black guys…there are plenty to go around. A whore with that much of a discerning eye usually won’t lead to a pleasurable experience anyway. From what I’m understand, black men annoy them with haggling. White and Hispanic men kill them. That’s the kind of reasoning that got them in the biz in the first place.

  6. Well if black men weren’t so damn disrespectful and stealing your money they wouldn’t see escorts saying “no black men
    Stop playing the race card on every damn thing and maybe you negro men will be treated with respect back instead of “no black men” signs!!

    1. Whites don’t steal your money,whore!
      I like turning whores like yourself over to cops .
      Snitch on the racist bitches.😈

  7. I’m confused here. With the number of white males that murdered prostitutes dating back to Jack The Ripper to The Craigslist Killer, shouldn’t white prostitutes be more weary of white males? I guess some people have their priorities. Taking a chance on getting murdered is less of problem than having to deal with disrespectful cheap black males with large penises.

  8. Why deal with silly, willey lynch, and possibly racist women. If our money isn’t good enough then I say take it elsewhere. Take it to a massage parlor where you will be treated like a king and with decency. The girls and staff are really nice. The only problem I found was that sometimes the girl you get are too small and they won’t let you hit it from the back, us being so well endowed and all lol, however, I find the attendtion they give alleviating and I think it is the attendtion they show that always has me leaving happy. If all of us black men did this, and at the rate this no aa trend is going I think we will have to, we will find ourselves much happier and encourage better business practices from our…”temple entrepreneurs” for lack of a more respecful term. An illegal trade brings illegal policy, so take your money elsewhere where there is more… bang for your bucks and where it is ultimately safer and less racist overall.

  9. This was a pretty good article, as I myself recently was on and saw quite a few escorts noting that they do not accept black men or mixed men. And I wondered why. I even called one girl and asked her and she hung up the phone on me. Pretty interesting. This is something I’m new to finding out about. Thanks for writing this.

  10. I dont know why all you black guys are complaining. You guys have the big dicks. Girls should be chasing after you for those. Eventually every white woman will probably have a baby with a black guy so it wont matter in the future.

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